The Wedding Venue Dilemma
I feel like this is the never-ending wedding. Once again, so much has changed. Our original plans to have our wedding at the park in order to cut costs were nixed due to a potential of extremely strong winds for the day. El Paso, Texas between the months of March and April has unpredictable weather.
Also, since Adrian has retail hours and I work nine-hour days an hour away, and I am near the end of my masters, we decided it would be a good idea to hire a wedding planner. Not only are we extremely busy but we cannot make a decision together to save our lives. So we were referred to a wedding planner by the photographer we hired. I was hesitant at first because all I could see is the increase in budget with a wedding planner’s fees. Once we met with her though, all of our fears and hesitations melted away! Angelica Juarez, owner of Mint Weddings gave us a vision of a wedding we never dreamed we could have. She also let us know that when we hire a wedding planner we also get the wedding planner’s discounts, which ended up saving us about the cost she was charging for her services. We were sold!! We were having a wedding we both wanted but didn’t know we could have and weren’t paying a dime extra for it.
Angelica told us about an art studio we could rent out for our wedding. Within the first visit to the potential wedding venue, we knew this was the place for us. It had a New York type feel to it and we loved how our linens and centerpieces shone under the studio lights. Our colors were bright and with the space’s white walls, the place looked straight out of a bridal magazine. When we first met with one of the owners of the venue he gave us the impression that there was no wiggle room in the 160 capacity and to put the nail on the coffin, he asked if it would be possible not to invite kids. I was furious at first but being that our original number was at 150, I thought we wouldn’t have to deal with the issue of space and the owner would just have to deal with kids for one night.
As the days passed we thought of more and more people to invite to our wedding so much so that our list jumped from a solid 150 to an ever growing 230. I was so stressed out!!!! We began to toy with the idea of not inviting kids but I could just see family members lashing out at me for being a snob. After weeks and weeks of going through the list we decided it was time for me to be a big girl and ask family members not to bring kids. For Adrian it wasn’t that big of an issue because he has a fairly small family and there are only a handful of kids that aren’t over the age of 14. Three of those in the handful would also be in the wedding. So I had begun to prepare myself for months of backlash before and after the wedding from my family that is until we attended a family gathering. Everything changed after we attended Adrian’s Aunt’s birthday party held at a country club. His aunt told us how much she paid for 100 guests and our jaws dropped! She was able to have a wedding style event for a quarter of our entire budget! We were floored. Adrian began searching for halls the next day, what we said we didn’t want for the wedding in the first place. I was still very hesitant to change plans but it seemed Adrian had some sort of over drive on.
We decided to go look at a venue but were warned, through Google comments, to tread lightly. I already had my guard up when we got there. But, the owners were actually pretty willing to work with you. The place was a ranch, completely different from a loft wedding I was already envisioning and excited about. I liked the fact that there was an outdoor area and that there was an abundance of fireplaces but I hated that I would no longer be able to have my tiffany chairs among other things.
Adrian negotiated the price down and the owners wanted us to make a decision at that moment because of the reduction in price but Adrian was able to talk them into at least giving us a day. We were able to fill a whole week’s worth of arguments into that one day. Adrian was asking me to make the decision because I was the one who was inviting kids, anyway it turned into a big fight but we came to the conclusion that we would rather not have the wedding we envisioned to try to accommodate more people. In the end it would make everyone happy, including us. I couldn’t imagine telling family members they couldn’t bring a part of their family. So, we made the decision to change the venue for our wedding three months before the wedding. We lost yet another deposit, bringing the total of lost deposits up to $500.
We met with our wedding planner recently and she picked up the ball and ran with it, though it was not the wedding she had initially envisioned for us either, I know she will find a way to make the place look FABULOUS. This week we’re planning to meet with a graphic designer for our wedding invitations and a potential dj for our wedding. I feel like finally, after almost three years, we are making progress towards our big special wedding day. Having all of our family and loved ones there, without having to worry about capacity or comfort is a big weight that has been lifted off of our shoulders. Now, I just can’t stop daydreaming about every moment of the big day. I hope to let you guys know of more details soon!
As for the lessons learned, my wedding planning tips for this week are simple:
1. Follow your instinct. You have to feel comfortable with the decision you make.
2. Don’t make decisions on impulse. Take your time, talk it over and then make a decision. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. This could’ve saved us some deposits.
Thanks for reading, looking forward to sharing more of our wedding story!